Are You Boring?
Posted by DDOCS in Entertainment, tags: Common Courtesy, Entertainment, holidays
With the holidays upon us, many of you will be at cocktail parties, office gatherings, and seasonal shindigs. It’s a time for seeing old friends as well as meeting new ones. Or, as I like to call it, the Season of Mindless Chit Chat.
If you’re not hugging the wall, chances are you’ll be mingling and chatting people up at these parties. It’s usually fairly easy to tell whether someone is interested in what you have to say or not. (If someone pulls the old “Oh, look at the time” routine, that’s usually a pretty good indicator that you’re not exactly a witty conversationalist.)
However, there are some people who really do seem clueless. To make sure you’re not one of the boring ones, check out this list by Gretchen Rubin at Psychology Today.
Her tips to know if you’re boring include:
Repeated, perfunctory responses. A person who repeats, “Oh really? Wow. Oh really? Interesting.” isn’t particularly engaged.
Simple questions. People who are bored ask simple questions. “When did you move?” “Where did you go?” People who are interested ask more complicated questions that show curiosity, not mere politeness.
Interruption. Although it sounds rude, interruption is actually a good sign, I think. It means a person is bursting to say something, and that shows interest.
Body position. People with a good connection generally turn to face each other. A person who is partially turned away isn’t fully embracing the conversation.
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